I See 4 Types of Parents in My Therapy Office. Which One Are You?

By Amy Morin for INC.com

Raising kids in today’s world is no easy task. From warnings about too much screen time and too many food additives, to the pressure to help your child succeed in school and on the sports field, parenting has become more challenging than ever.

Parents are employing specific strategies and coping skills to deal with the challenges of the modern world. And as a psychotherapist, I see four main types of parents in my office:

1. Relaxed Rulers

Relaxed rulers give kids plenty of freedom to explore and try new things. They let kids solve their own problems and they make it a priority to “let kids be kids.”

Relaxed rulers are the opposite of the stereotypical “helicopter parent.” They want their kids to play hard, have fun, and learn from the natural consequences of their own behavior.

While their laid-back approach is sure not to stifle a child’s development, children of relaxed rulers might not receive enough guidance and hands-on training. As a result, kids may not learn all the skills they need to become their best.

2. No-Nonsense Commanders

No-nonsense commanders make sure kids have plenty of structure and plenty of rules. They have high expectations and they make many demands.

They worry that today’s kids are ‘too soft.’ They hand out serious consequences when their kids get out of line in hopes it will teach them a valuable life lesson.

Since no-nonsense commanders emphasize obedience over everything else, kids don’t always internalize the message parents are sending. They may follow the rules to avoid getting in trouble, rather than strive to reach their greatest potential.

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